Dear Aunt Noor,

I have a problem with my marriage life. I have been married for six years but lately I feel that my husband has changed a lot. He is not the romantic sweet man I used to know in the past. Lately, I started to feel like we are strangers, as if there are a lot of partitions preventing us from talking and sharing thoughts.

Yours,

Dalelah

Dear Dalelah,

Don’t worry about your husband. He is still the same romantic sweet man who you love but what is happening in your situation is what I could say “Marriage Quietness”, which happens sometimes between couples. Therefore my dear, I don’t want you to give up, and do your best to return your interesting marriage life back. Here are some ideas which could help a lot in your situation:

1- Never start a conversation saying that he doesn’t talk to you or is ignoring you. That would immediately stop the conversation and starts an argument instead.

2- Avoid raising your voice when talking to him or being nervous and always try to let him feel that you respect his point of view especially when you have different point of views about the same issue.

3- Treat him softly; the same way you used to do when you first got married.

4- Choose the right time to discuss the home and kids problems and make sure by your smartness that he is ready to listen to such things. For example, don’t start such an issue when he returns back home from work.

5- Both of you should feel free to talk about your life concerns together and you should not get embarrassed to discuss sensitive issue and find solutions for any problem you are facing together but again: don’t get nervous and be gentle as much as you could and after the discussion.

6- Let your husband feel that you accept him the way he is without any condition.

7- Try to create common interests with him because that would help a lot to start a conversation together.

8- You should add a sense of humor to your family and your relation with your husband instead of the boring routine.

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