Dear Aunt, 

I am a 34 year old expat, and have been married to a computer engineer for 4 years and have 2 children. Six months after marriage, I received a job offer in another city and I used to visit my family every couple of weeks. But over the last 9 months, I visit them only every three months.

Recently my sister had a big fight with my wife and since, then my wife became very hostile even with me and even threatened to leave me on a few occasions. Whenever I am around I help her with the kids, and recently I bought her a car but she still speaks with me very arrogantly over the phone many times. Now I started having health problems. She wants me to be with her and asks me to quit this job immediately. I have signed the contract with my employer till January and it is very hard to leave my current job. Please advise me how to improve my marriage.

Regards,

Sam 

Dear Sam,

I respect your wife very much after all the good things you said about her but at the same, I don’t agree with her acting arrogant. Maybe she acts in such a way because you are not with her for a long time so that affects her psychology, but I still feel that she doesn’t have the right to do so. Your wife should understand that she is not the only one suffering. You are suffering too from being alone without your wife and kids and all that because you want to guarantee a good life for you, her and the kids. Also, it is not reasonable that your wife asks you to leave your job, especially that your job contract will end in less than three months.

About your wife threatening to leave you; I think if she really loves you, she would never think about it especially that you already have two kids.

I am sure that most of your problems would vanish when you  return back to your wife and kids and before I end I advise you to never let your love for her force you to abandon everything important in your life to make her happy, and always think about the right thing for the family in general and go with it.

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