Dear Aunt Noor,

I am 25 years old. I have been married for about three months. My husband loves me very much but the problem is that he gets angry even with things that don’t need someone to scream or get angry. Honestly, he has a lot of good qualities but at the same time, I feel I can’t deal with his anger, therefore, I am thinking seriously to leave him since we are still in the beginning, and don’t have children yet. What do you think?

Thank you so much Aunt for offering your time to solve my problem.

Yours,

Nawal

Dear Nawal,

Thank you for your question. Before I could try to find a solution to your problem, I want to explain to you something very important which every married woman should always put in her mind when thinking about taking any  decision about her  marriage life.

Getting married is not like going to a vacation where you can go back whenever you get bored or don’t like the place. I always call marriage as the holy relation which holds a lot of human meanings as well as a lot of challenges which give it the flavor of happiness.

For that reason, I want you my dear to erase the word divorce from your dictionary, especially when thinking about something like your current problem.

First of all, I want to remind you that you are still new in marriage and it’s too early to know all your husband’s characteristics because your marriage is only three months old and as a result, you might feel he is nervous because you are not used to his personality. Besides, it is not right to give up and withdraw easily from the third month because you don’t like one thing about him. Imagine he was your dad. Were you going to withdraw and say “I don’t want this dad”??!!

 I want you to think seriously about the ways that make him stay calm. For example, at home if he wants lunch on time, then try to do your best to do so and never be late and when he gets angry at you, try to show him that you understand his point of view and never argue with him until he calms down. Then, you can discuss the issue and explain to him that the matter doesn’t need all that anger.

Good luck

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